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What's Going On Inside an Introvert's Head?

What's Going On Inside an Introvert's Head?

The Rich Inner Life of Introverts

Kim Pivot
June 21, 2024

Thought

Ever catch yourself drifting off into your own thoughts during a meeting, only to snap back and realize someone’s asked you a question about... who knows what?

If you’ve been accused of overthinking, constantly mulling over ideas, or just being "in your head," congratulations—you might be an introvert.

As an introvert, I've often found my brain working overtime, sometimes at the most inconvenient moments (like when I'm supposed to be listening to my boss complain about IT).

Other times I blurt my thoughts out desperately in hopes of making a connection with the outer world—which is not so straightforward because the mere quantity and frequency of what goes through our heads are in bulk per sec—often leaves my significant other confused and exhausted, struggling to meet me halfway.

An intricate illustration of a brain composed of gears and machinery, representing the complex thought processes of an introvert

The complexity of an introvert's mind

So why do we introverts spend so much time in our heads?

And why do we so reflexively doubt ourselves when others tell us we are wrong or negative for being the way we are?

Scoop

According to Laurie Helgoe, author of Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength, introverts have a knack for deeply analyzing thoughts rather than acting on them impulsively—quiet on the outside, but a whirlwind of activity going on inside. Helgoe explains:

Extroverts may have more going on socially, but we’ve got more going on upstairs. The ‘more’ in the heads of introverts doesn’t refer to more intelligence or creativity, but to the preference for incubating—rather than quickly acting on—thoughts and impressions.

The activity center for introverts is inside, not outside. When an introvert sees an image or hears a question, ideas get tossed around inside while the surface stays calm; an extrovert is more likely to toss out quick impressions and process them out in the open.

— Laurie Helgoe, Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength

So, what does science say about this? Research shows that when introverts process incoming information, the frontal cortex—the part of the brain responsible for higher-order thinking—becomes a mental fireworks show with a flood of activity. This area integrates new data with stored information, allowing introverts to generate complex responses.

In simpler terms, introverts are wired to focus inwardly. This inward focus allows us to deeply process information and come up with thoughtful solutions.

It’s no wonder we prefer calm environments and solitude—these settings help us tune out external noise and tap into our rich inner world of thoughts and ideas.

Here are some takeaways for introverts to embrace their inner world.

1. Leverage Your Inner Focus

Use your natural tendency to think deeply to your advantage. Whether it’s for problem-solving or creative projects, your ability to incubate thoughts can lead to more innovative solutions.

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Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid

— Probably not Albert Einstein

Minimalistic image of a confused-looking fish with muted colors

So what’s going on inside the fish’s head?

2. Create a Calm Environment

Design a workspace that minimizes distractions. A quiet, orderly environment with “just the right amount of stimulation” will help you concentrate and harness your mental energy effectively.

3. Schedule Solitude

Make time for solitude each day. This can be a period for reflection, meditation, or simply unwinding. Solitude allows you to recharge and process your thoughts. It sounds like a waste of time but it really isn’t for an introvert.

4. Embrace Your Thoughtfulness

Don’t shy away from your thoughtful nature. Being reflective and introspective are strengths that can lead to deeper understanding and more meaningful interactions.

I’ve learned that my frequent “zoning out” can affect people, so I’ve made it a habit to take a step back and gather my thoughts fully before responding. This way, I ensure our conversations are as productive and meaningful as possible. Here is a script you can use:

You: "I really appreciate this conversation and want to give it my full focus. Sometimes, I need a few minutes to process everything we've discussed to make sure I’m giving you the best response. Can we revisit this conversation in about 10 minutes?"

Them: [Potential response, showing understanding or asking for clarification]

You: "Thank you for understanding. I’ve found that taking a little time to think things over helps me provide more thoughtful and meaningful input. I'll be back shortly, and we can continue our discussion then."

Resource

My Childhood Explained in a TED

Cain wrote extensively on introversion. I relate deeply to her description of her childhood and the discouraging environment introverted kids are still subjected to.

In my family, reading was the primary group activity… You have the animal warmth of your family sitting next to you, but you are also free to go roaming around the adventureland inside your own mind. And I had this idea that camp was going to be just like this, but better.

— Susan Cain, The Power of Introverts

This was exactly how I felt during my five awkward years at boarding school, convinced I was "uncool" for preferring chess and solitary activities over rowdy socializing.

Her insights are validating and empowering, helping introverts understand the unique strengths they bring to the table.

Last Word

Embrace the power of your inner world. It’s a unique and valuable strength that allows you to process and understand the world in a much deeper, and better, way.

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